One of the most memorable times I had diving was playing with a giant octopus off Sado island, in Japan. It was a moment where nature allowed me to play, and the octopus and I played a game of hiding and seek. The octopus would move and change colors and camouflage itself, I would swim over and find it, and then it would move a few feet away. We repeated this game for the entirety of my tank. It was amazing how the octopus could change. Perhaps that is my frustration when I see people and realize most do not want to change.
An octopus does feel better with a box or bottle to live in for shelter; once again, they can squish into most any space. Humans tend to create a little box around themselves, and their habits and ways of life become more like prisons for them than a place to go rest, recharge, and relax
more and more I see people afraid to come out of their boxes into society, even fewer look and ask, “why am I living in a box?” and are blinded by their blind spots, habits, and ways of life.
It isn’t that life is meant to be hard; instead, as humans, we figure out ways to make it harder; for reasons, I don’t know. Conflicts arise when one person comes out of their box and tells another who is living in their box that, “your box isn’t right! change it!
the reality is that the person telling the other box to change pretty much is living in a similar box of their own. it is like pot calling the kettle black.
I miss that octopus, as just today I realize today what a fantastic lesson it taught me about change, yet, at the time, I didn’t even see it. Perhaps that is what happens when you try to change and stop living in a tiny box. You see how blind you were.
It is doubtful you can change anyone else’s view of their box. I also learned from a dear friend in the past month, that I am no longer in any business of convincing another – no matter how bad a path they are headed with their box of life choices. While one part of me is happy to see the differences…the other part of me gets sad in that the human condition probably will not change – humans will repeat until they one day find themselves extinct.