I just came to a staggering conclusion this morning, or I just have come to a place where I have given up on the optimistic view that people will change. The reality is we all can change and improve. It appears it is easier to rationalize or believe we are somehow just fine the way were are don’t need to change – everyone else does.
Just look at how as a whole we are treating each other online, in public spaces, and with the news. Does this look or sound like folks that have their stuff altogether for a greater collective good, or a more selfish based society?
It makes me wonder if people are just ok with the status quo, don’t know how, don’t want to, or don’t see any reason or motivation to change? I ask these questions as I sincerely would like to understand. The more you work to try to improve yourself, the more you realize where you once were. You see the difference in how what you were taught as the model for a living seemed to be a world where people all told you what you were supposed to do, yet, few to none were actually doing the work to act or behave the way they say.
I get it. Change is hard, usually takes time, and most of the time you have to unwind the bad habits, strip them off as if you are giving up your favorite blanket you had as a small child and then take steps into the unknown with no guarantee the work will pay off.
Maybe risk or taking a risk is a part of it all? People are happier living in the status quo and changing would alter some image, ego, an illusion of who they think they are?
I guess I get confused a bit when I think of the world and the dynamic movement of all, yet, with people, I wonder if everyone thinks they are just fine? Or has society said, “no need to change, just post the illusion of the pretty parts of your life, that way you don’t have to deal with the reality in your heart and soul
I think I mentioned yesterday how difficult this lent has been. It feels like mediocrity in motion or saying prayers in a quicksand of sorts where one does’ have the feeling of grace or help. I am not sure of the “why?” for this – all I know is to keep moving forward each day and trying.
I guess change is a lot like reading all the articles on the internet. I was reading a report from a New York Times with an author questioning why so many people have a story in them, and how few really do when it comes to writing a good book. I got the same feeling reading all the self-help productivity articles today in Medium. One was about chaos and creativity. As I read it, it came across that someone looked at the subject, wrote a paper on it, and hit send.
What I didn’t get from the article was experiential wisdom from someone who actually tried, to themselves to their limits, and did more than typing up a paper. Call it lifeless or soulless?
Today there are all sorts of shows about talent and becoming a star. A lot of people vying for a slot or two. There is some fantastic talent on display, yet, I guess I learned too much behind the scenes with what an actual voice sounds like and how it is all recorded, mixed, sweetened and processed/cued/labeled and played live. Digital music is unusual in that anyone can do it. When I was in Nashville, I heard of engineers splicing phonetics of vocal takes together to create the perfect song.
what happens when you do that is you can’t replicate it live – sans backing track, a whole lot of processing, and racks of autotuned and efx.
I guess I finally answered my question of change. I would rather be around a band that is playing live and knows how to play than a manipulated or faux act that is puppets on a stage who feel they really are great.
it is funny, in the past I would try to create that super stage – today – I want reality.
Is that a product of aging? Wisdom? or coming to space where you get honest with the lies you told yourself about how good you were –(cough cough)
ok…whatever that crud was – has been taken off.
time to launch a few ideas in a world that doesn’t seem to really want change that costs them anything. (that sentence did not come out as I wished or intended, but there I the no edit rule for these 10 minutes)
what i can do - is change myself.