I often wonder why our leaders don’t seem to take into account that their actions and behaviors are more like an indicator of what is socially acceptable in society. “If he is doing it, why can’t I?”
It was something I did like about President Obama in trying to place the office of president above himself and his ego. I think of President Clinton lying to the public, and I do understand coming clean when pride, image, and ego turn out to be your worst internal enemies. All he had to do was say, “yeah, I did it.” Aside from a very pissed off wife, he would not have opened the floodgates for lying to be acceptable in society.
Current president trump is a masterful player of using fear and simplistic black and white messages that for whatever reason have a lot of the American public seems to be Pavlov’s rats in thinking, “oh this behavior is ok…just be a bully.” I really can't rationalize or justify many of his behaviors when people ask political questions overseas. Inside the united states, I have never seen such polarity in my life.
Mind you; I have no idea what any of the following people are really like off camera, or behind closed doors. All I see is in society the effects on the mass population. This perception becomes more focused each time I go out and come back inside the country. The bigger question today was, “what happened to civility in the USA?”
I googled that question and was astounded at the amount of research done in the past ten years addressing that issue. It doesn’t seem like too many Americans have much empathy for their fellow Americans. It appears more that each person is screaming about how special and unique their wants, likes, and view are, and no one is listening anymore. I used to make a joke that God is lonely in that people are too busy thinking they can solve all their problems and being gracious, and he will never force anyone to love or do something. Instead, he will wait till the person realizes, “I can’t solve these issues alone.”
Sorry for the digression. I had another possible interesting project discusses last night to help a friend. I would love to see this one become real as well. Plus, all that work I did in 3d modeling and printing will help another get up to speed and hopefully unlock more ideas in their skills and talents. However, back to civility:
“instead of conversations that might change minds, we reduce our debates to toxic confrontations.”
You walk into a public space, and people don’t look at each other anymore. Most of the time you have to deal with someone staring into their mobile, oblivious that they are even in a public space. I was in a café yesterday, and the barista had to ask a customer, “excuse me, please don’t put your feed up on the table as if it is a lounge.”
The customer didn’t get it and just kept their feet up until a family came in with one of those mega strollers to carry the Disney princess and officially licensed child prototype. It was an older mom and dad, not a young couple and I was looking at the stroller to see if it had a refrigerator and a fold out cooktop in case the child wanted food. It was a humorous moment when they didn’t seem to know the woman’s legs on the table and just rammed the stroller into them. All I needed to see was the young princess throwing a tantrum and cursing a few old folks trying to open the door in the wind that they needed to hurry up and get inside because the draft was bothering her.
It seems weird, but that is what has happened in American culture from the top down. In my German classes in Switzerland, it was a two-edged sword, and they were secretly trying to shove swiss culture and traditions (some of which even the Swiss never heard of) down our throats when all we were trying to do is learn to speak and communicate in a new language. Something was interesting about the classes, that appear to have been designed 50 years ago and do not take into consideration modern technologies, but it has me wonder about mandatory manors and civility class in school. It appears that parenting and/or lack of it has changed since I was a kid. Some days I look at the kid and think they are trying to raise the parent anymore.
What does this have to do with the price of milk in China? A lot. First the Chinese are implementing much dairy into their world as they believe it is a sign of a prosperous country and good for the growth of their citizens in size. Secondly, simple common sense “treat your neighbor as you wish to be treated” probably would work better if it was a choice people made themselves versus being forced to behave in a certain way. I think this is one element of America that many people don’t seem to realize. They aren’t all that free with the way capitalism and the monetization of all has left them today. They are just buying the illusion of it all because their leaders tell them it must be true and not to ask, "why?" and think for themselves.
Yesterday I had to clarify why I ask many questions. It is because I don’t know, want to understand, or need more information about something or how someone feels. Even this seems a bit strange to some Americans as they are taught if you can’t answer a question with, “I don’t know…however, I will get back to you soon with some answers.” This behavior is somehow unacceptable. To some, this Is their reason to pounce on another, and that is what is happening in American society. There are many people pointing fingers at others, not seeing that hat they are looking at is merely a reflection that exists inside themselves.
“but we are different” doesn’t hold up if both sides are merde. No matter how you try to perfume, polish, or gloss over merde…it still is merde and it stinks.
It would seem to be common sense that in public, you humanely treat your fellow human. In the USA, we probably are more fearful, angry, and have no problem treating our fellow human inhumanely to somehow elevate ourselves as somehow better than another.
I am thinking of a book I helped a friend write. They were in Saudi, and a fire destroyed the compound apartments where the expats were living. She remembered the locals fighting over broken pieces of burnt dinnerware so they would have something that their other countryman would not.
When I write this, I think of the words in the declaration of independence for America, and then the second half of the two commandments Jesus said to do. I have much work and growing to get to a place where I walk with dispassionate inner peace, I have learned changing each day is a better option than just repeating the same behavior and thinking one will have a different result.
When will the country drop the fears and insecurity and try being humane with each other?
That’s the morning 10 minutes of whatever. May you have a great day. Why did I post the picture? Simple…It was a moment where a father and son with two very different views and idea of life, one a punk rocker type, the other a conservative working-class father saw beyond each other’s individual views and let love supersede individual wants and needs. The picture doesn’t do them justice.