ever try to help a friend and you are wondering, “do they want help? or do they want to simply find someone that will tell them what they want to hear and make a big mess?” it might be easier if I simply handed him a gun and every time he had an idea, tell him to shoot himself in the foot and if it doesn’t hurt, it is a good idea. I am sitting here looking at engineering specs for a beam and the reality that some idiot installed 2 ½ inch screws when 8 inch ½ bolts are required for the application.
I am not sure if it is brain damage from American football, stupidity, experince, or lunacy for wanting to help people not make mistakes over and over?
when you have a lot of experience making things that move all over the planet, are mobile, articulated, and work in a dynamic way….making static things is actually easier. so you “help” and many times you wonder “why?” you are even helping?
do you start the people off with a big caliber bullets to shoot themselves in the foot? or do you go with a progression from a bb gun to work up through the larger calibers and build up a resistance to pain and the loss of part of their foot? how long will it take before the mind makes a correlation between, “gee, this hurts, maybe it is best I stop shooting myself in the foot?”
I am a bit incredulous, as my friends are not stupid people. they are very well versed in book smarts, and even street smarts. I will not admit they suck at making things and allowing others to build their vision, as they want to manage what they don’t have a clue about.
it is like yesterday, another guy who simply likes my friend and wants to help comes in and wants to install a lower quality product, even though we get a higher performance one for the same price. it is a bit of a red flag to me, yet, I don’t know this guy from Adam and since I get to do the work to fix a major fubar and make it recognizable, functional and safe – I have to trust this guy to do some work. I am fine with that, as I will find out very quickly how good the quality of his work is. I guess there is something I learned in Switzerland and their apprentice and trades group – they really have a high level of quality. what they don’t allow is on the fly change or innovation to happen all that much. it is more like do, repeat, do again…change?
it is the question I will have an answer to in a few hours. either the guy will keep shooting himself in the foot? or change. I just can’t sit around cleaning up the parts of a guy’s foot anymore and think, “oh this is normal.”
inside the lab, you will make 100 mistakes before the morning brainstorm is ok. this is the time you can make mistakes, alterations and play with variations. what I am learning is that much of the planet doesn’t really think, and has to be told step by step what to do. I am not sure where the critical element comes in. I think that is perhaps something laced into man’s DNA and genome sequences.
teddy Roosevelt had a great story about people that do or try…it is not about being a spectator, or what is see with many politicians today who want camera time and thing we are really that stupid to think the system that caused the problems is somehow immune from the reality of the problem. “but we will fix it! so what that we caused it. now we can fix it! vote for me!”
the man in the arena - teddy rosevelt
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
I just realized why you help people. usually it is because you at one time or another shot yourself in the foot and realize how much it hurts, costs, sets you back…you simply don’t want to see another human make the same mistake. simple