“Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience.” mark twain
for some reason, I never remember the word stupidity in the mark twain quote. I always had the idea of the word, “drunk person” in place of, "stupid." perhaps it was too many nights as a bouncer/doorman dealing with what happens to a lot of folks when they drink too much and seem to change into a different person.
my grandmother had a wise quote about the difference between ignorance and stupidity. “if someone is ignorant, you can’t really fault them in that they really didn’t know any better. so you take the time to explain and teach them. if they go do the same thing again after they know better, that is stupidity.”
grandma’s definition of stupidity has nothing to do with lacking mental capacity, as the more I watch and observe in the USA today, we have some really well-educated people that are doing some very stupid things. yesterday I had a glaze on my eyes, as I do understand no one is perfect, but I don’t understand why everyone is angry and defending themselves from their own stupidity. I really felt like I was in a twilight zone episode yesterday
first, have you ever had someone sit in a conversation and tell you what you think, feel, are doing, or have done and yet, you never thought, felt, or did any of it? usually If you come to me with something like that, I am fine with differing opinions or ideas, but you better have a construct to back up what you think and feel the other person is doing. in the past I would try to have a conversation with such people, but later in life, I think to all the drunk people I had to take care of and realize if someone wants to make up things that aren’t real, and then believe them – you probably are best not being around the person if they are not doing anything to help you grow, but rather want to try to tear you down.
secondly, I wonder where the reality of person to person service is going these days. my second moment of disbelief was going to a gym and being met by a young man that wanted to join and I said, “sorry man, I can’t let you in.” he then pointed to the sign painted on the door with the hours. so I said, “C'mon in, let me show you around and get the info.” you would think the owner would have liked his members concerned with trying to help him. but alas, I am seeing a trend where some folks might want to work on their social skills and not worry so much about social media. word of mouth is the most valuable form of endorsement you can have. but maybe the business world has changed where commodification has overtaken service?
third was a guy flipping me off who had no turn signal on and was going about 5 mph on a street. usually I just blow it all off, yet, for whatever reason, I wondered if the guy was drunk and driving, as I usually don’t see people flipping people off. I parked the car and met him as he was walking out of the store and asked, “do you remember me?”
“no man, no clue”
“I am the guy you flipped off a few minutes ago”
what transpired was a man who was in the wrong, defending himself in such a way that I simply said, “you might help your case by saying nothing and moving along rather than confirm your stupidity to everyone.”
I know here is a bunch of learning going on with normal every day life. I don’t really know what the creator of the universe is trying to teach me? perhaps it was last night in port authority getting on a bus to the town that it is hard to get to or from that I was surprised at the amount of little kids up late in the night. I was thinking, “why aren’t they all at home in beds sleeping?” then I realized the parents might not have known it is a good thing for the kids. there was one grandma traveling with them all who had tired eyes that seemed to say, “I did the best with what I could to teach the kids the basics…but they didn’t want to listen, so I will be there for my grandbaby’s.”
I still don’t know what these seemingly random events mean. but I know I am to pay attention to them for a deeper meaning and hopefully some change inside me.
but mark twain is right. while I do give the benefit of the doubt to ignorance and trying to understand. sometimes you do run into people that no amount of discussion will ever get them to understand. it doesn’t mean they don’t have the mental capacity to grasp it – it simply means they seemed to misplace the information given to them when they were ignorant.
I am curious how the next 20-30 years are going to play out in the world. it is the perfect storm of sorts approaching. what I fear is that humanity will behave in a stupid way.