if we are all going to die, and we all have an equality in that fact, why does humanity treat each other so unequally or inhumanly at times when we are all alive on this planet?
“how are you doing?” is a common phrase thrown out in America when people interact in social spaces. it is amazing how few people actually take the time to listen to the answer from the person the question was asked to. it is uniquely an American phenomenon. call it the disease of “I-am-programmed-to-ask-but-don’t-give-a-sh*t-I-tis?” in other parts of the world, you can see others stop and listen, but in the states, I think we have become more a society of talking heads and wonder why humanity and society is getting more brutish.
planet stress? planet self-importance? planet “selfie?”….anyone else really knows what is going on with civility and humanity in various parts of the planet? I just wrote about the irony that the only guarantee we have in this life is we will all die, yet, the only equality we do have on this planet that is “fair & equal” is the amount of time in a day we are each alive. 24 hours, 1,440 minutes, or 86,000 seconds.
perhaps it was me having to travel a bit for a simple meeting that I felt out of place in that I have tried to spend a lot of time figuring out how to live/work all in one general area. the reason? I am far more productive, creative, and can think more in open thought process than when one is distracted with the normal elements that can throw your mind off with distractions of traffic, lights, people, interruptions, phones, etc. it was when I was working on an immersive dome idea in the late 90’s in silicon valley where I had a friend commuting from redwood city to downtown san Francisco each day and when I added up the time I asked, “are you getting paid for what amounts to 14 workweeks of time?
the irony there was he worked for companies that never made a profit, but he was handsomely rewarded by the stock option game of the internet. come to think of it, I know a lot of people that made a lot of money, yet, they never got anything to market, much less got anywhere near being profitable. odd, but that is a part of the problem in the gaming of the economy where market cap supersedes ROI or actual profit. the other problem is there are more funds than companies trading and few seem to be looking at while novel, the idea of making money trading paper…will work, but not in the long term. human greed will do in the system over time.
I digress, and perhaps I am seeing a trend where I am seeing a portion of every race, creed, color, religion and group screaming out to be included and treated fairly – yet – almost like being blind to oneself, I am seeing what appears to be a one way street in the message. also, a lot of retaliatory things with “I was disrespected” or “it doesn’t matter if I acted a fool, I deserve to be treated well!” type behaviors.
if we want to be treated well, all you can do is treat your fellow human the way you wish to be treated. it does not mean you will be treated back the same way, in fact, we are all humans and I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have bad days, issues bothering them, or not operating at their top levels all the time. we are a bit messy, broken, and wounded as we navigate our lives. what I guess I am surprised about is how much stuff I see in the media and/or social media that gives a clip of the “event” when if you have been around longer, you know there is more to the construct than the moment someone flipped on a camera and hits record.
is the problem we are an instant gratification society and have the attention span of gnats and need a new flow of bad data? or is it that in many situations there is a bit of fault on both sides of the human incident that we allow miscommunication and misunderstanding to take a back seat to human anger?
instead of taking a look inside what each of us can control, there is a lot of people harboring anger, bitterness and resentment inside them that lash out, place some race/creed/color/belief card and wonder, “why isn’t anything changing with how we are treating each other?”
then again, I am starting to wonder how many people are even aware of themselves anymore?
maybe I answered a question to why I am ok with our work on one project where we took all our entertainment knowledge and will apply it to the level of helping people that want to grow that are too busy to go sit out in the middle of a desert and wait for that moment that might take a day, week, month or years…to really see themselves and understand there is a lot more going on to life than looking at the inequality that does exist in human life and not taking the time to try to change it.
either I got hit too many times in the head playing American football, when I got off the secular treadmill of success, or was it that old man in the middle of a desert that stared through me and saw all the crap I did in my life – that looked at me with universal love with no judgement that brought forth this change? some people think there is no god, some do, all I know is if you go beyond the checklist of religion and seek – you will find out there is something truly amazing holding all this together.
the hard part for many is stepping back and trying to learn a bit of humility in a system that applauds and rewards unhealthy pride.
life is a mystery…and overall a truly amazing experience. it is very easy to close off others, it is simple to hurt others if your ideas/beliefs don’t jibe with theirs, but it is not hard to smile, say hello, and if you ask, “how are you doing?” wait and listen to the answer to the quesiton you just asked and don't think "oh it is just some mindless social habit that people do wiht each other and wonder why social decorum is in the toilet."
the “how are you?” is a uniquely American thing where we ask the question and where many do not really want to hear the answer.
to those folks. stop asking the question, unless you really want to know the answer.
I was going to write about the new trends in arenas and such…but for whatever reason, my mind took a detour into whatever this was about.