if an eye for an eye doesn’t ever work too well, why don’t we really try to “love?”
today will be a day where I sit and type and do computer models all day long, the rain is constant and of a heavy downpour, the temperature is cool and the green of the blooming grasses and leaves of the late spring in the north is vibrant. Normally a dreary and depressing day, yet, I have about three weeks of typing and designing to complete a deadline. this morning, there was a royal wedding of which I simply was happy that a man found a woman he loves. the complicated part is he was born a prince and his life is nowhere near normal by most of the world's standards.
I had to put the American television channels on mute, simply to shut up the gaggle of voices and personalities talking, over talking, telling us what we are thinking, and making anything and everything out of two folks that met- fell in love, and are getting married. how I wish I could have the British, European, Asian, and American feeds running side by side, as I think you would get a case study in “how” each group broadcasts events and the style of it.
the pageantry of the ceremony was a bit like a fairy tale that happened in real life, I think that is the fascination in the USA with a woman waking up one day and the reality is, “I am actually a princess today.” how many fathers tell their little girls they are a princess? how many little girls love the idea of romance and the princess fairy tale? the idea of romantic love seems to fuel our desires more than the what the larger definition of love is. while one can make an argument for Eros or romantic love, phileo for brotherly love, and agape for self-sacrificing for the greater good of others.
then there is a love that may really not be achievable for many of us to walk in with our human bodies. pure love.
patience, kindness, not envious, doesn’t boast, isn’t proud, is not rude, doesn’t seek out selfish desires, doesn’t get angry easily, forgives easily and doesn’t remember, doesn’t accept evil, always wants the truth, is protective, trusting, and hopeful….it always perseveres and never give up. this is the kind of love that never fails.
now ask yourself, how many people do you know that actually have mastered this type of love? I can count on my hand the few that walk in this space in a human form, and each of them is a monk and thinks that they are nothing special, just a piece of dust in the cosmos. if the world walked in this type of love, humanity would have no problem existing on earth in love.
but this type of love is not something I am even sure many people are aware of or care about. we all struggle to make the most of our lives and time, yet, I wonder if you can ever get a taste of this love on your own or with your “self?” rather, it comes when you turn off all the noise of the planet, stop chasing who is wearing what, what is so and so thinking (and you forget to ask them) and all the accoutrements that humans put on themselves to make themselves feel better about themselves.
it is like the media this morning, I literally had to channel hop to get the talking heads to shut up a bit and let two folks get married. you didn’t need to be a rocket scientist to see that the man is in love with the woman. I can’t tell you what I think of the woman, as I think perhaps she was in shock, as if a dream, “I am now a princess?”
enter the media and my god, thank god for that mute button. I really didn’t and don’t care who is wearing what, I don’t care of the political, racial, cultural, or religious overtones to any and every possible scenario one can come up with. I do not care about the depth chart of royal lineage and kind or queendom. sorry, I guess after doing shows and studying human emotion and how to manipulate it…I really don’t care about the cake frosting of emotion that cover up each of our hearts and souls.
I do care about how I can try to take myself a step closer to the last type of love, and to do that, well, reality is you seem to find yourself getting stomped on each day until some grace descends upon you to help you along, as we are all a bit imperfect with something, yet, as a whole, humanity does have all the pieces to put it together where we don’t have to spend our time yapping and playing dress up to get ratings, merchandising money and playing op-ed “what if’s”
thank god for the mute button. you didn’t need any voice over and commentator to make the event beautiful. all you had to do was look at the faces and then into the hearts of the two folks getting married.
if only we could capture that moment and put it in a bottle or carry it around with us and not let the reality of our behaviors with each other and our flaws get in the way where an eye for an eye supersedes the reality of pure love.