there is an interesting thing I see happening with aging. it also might be the answer to why so many people go from the highly creative state as a child, to what I am seeing with many adults, which is more like just fitting in a space to survive than taking the time to continue growing and evolving. a famous Picasso quote says, “every child is an artist. The problem is how we remain an artist once we grow up.”
ever been told not to follow your ideas and dreams because there is a risk or the chance of failure? ever been told to get a conservative training to fall back on like a degree in accounting? ever hear, “why do you want to do that?” or a myriad of other criticisms or comments that are not born of someone really wanting someone to grow and succeed, but perhaps been influenced by the fear of trying or failing in another. it is an interesting question, of which, I am hearing more 35-45 year old’s lamenting that life is over and all one can best do is a life of contentment, happiness no longer applies.
it is sort of depressing to listen to this – particularly when you have four products to get to market, no safety net, and years of time and money invested since you changed the model of one's purpose in life from, “what’s in it for me? how much can I get for me?” to “how can we do something that has a purpose for others, and help others?”
life is a beautiful journey, yet, I think as humans we tend to complicate it in our own minds and more and more – with the social media world of the west – disposing of others. take for instance the current buzzwords of “collaborative economy” and “nice guys finish last.” the later one is some group that came to my attention with the reality that people like to compartmentalize the “work” persona with the “personal” persona. it might appear like a box of chocolates where everything is neat and organized, yet, the element never mixes or touch any other part of what is in the box. I think most of us grew up in this type of an environment, and in Europe, this is still very much the case because the fallacy of privacy in today’s surveillance society is not really there – yet people think it is with social interactions.
as I type, I wonder, perhaps I am way off base with how I am trying to change to live. I would like the person that works, lives and play’s to be the same person all the time. I don’t want to play dress up, make-up, or cover-up based some world model. that does not mean I am not bright enough to know how to dress for a meeting, eat at a fine restaurant, and try to be civil with everyone that crosses my path – to me that is common sense. what is not common sense is the need for folks to give up what makes their heart skip a beat to fit into a model that is more about surviving than living.
ever have to simply survive in life? it is an experience that really teaches you that as long as you are breathing air and alive – it is a gift. when everything is going well and is lovely, I think it might be human nature to somehow not appreciate, or have that gift distilled. if you allow your internal flaws with being human to supersede what might be considered a virtue – then you probably will end up simply wanting a life where you acquire, want, or need to experience more stuff, or you might simply sit in a hole and lament, “Woah is me…my life isn’t turning out just like I planned, I think it is time to quit.”
have you ever thought about quitting in life? it's a normal question at some time in your life. “do I keep going with this idea, or simply cut my losses?” or “is this relationship working and filling me, or teaching me to grow, or is the other person holding me back, yet accusing me of causing all of their issues?” those are a few things that have crossed my path in life, what are yours?
the last year, I am enrolled in a relationship course about communication and tools to learn about shared decision making, communication, and the other elements that perhaps we simply take for granted, and/or we never take some time to analyze ourselves with what our part is in the full relationship. I am seeing my friend's relationships blowing up all around me the past few weeks and I sit, listen, and try to be a friend and not criticize or judge anyone…just be there, yet, it is pretty sad to see any relationship end.
I think that is part of what our new social media, living, dating, Instagram and other platforms are telling people. “you don’t need to work at anything, just swipe” while some I the group are spending a whole lot of time pretending to be something or someone else – some image of photoshopped perfection. can someone explain why some people take a picture of themselves each day and post it on Instagram versus sharing a moment in their world – with the world?
the past few weeks, I have been combing through all the years of sketchbooks that were stored and what I realized is that there are so many ideas and dreams I never go to. yet, I went after every dream I had as a kid and was surprised to accomplish many of them years ago.
today, I am watching people age, and learning that they are happy for a pain-free day, or one where they share a conversation and a cup of coffee with another human being. people my age, I really don’t get – it seems some are lost in a world of money, money, money…others have worked in a job they didn’t like to have a retirement that will one day allow them to do what they dreamed of.
me? I must look insane, trying to do what was four companies and retrench them into one so that there can be the cross-pollination of the various ideas since the core of each is very similar, but the applications are very different. it is taking plants and people and providing them with the optimal space and conditions to grow in.
the only thing missing is that people get a choice to grow. usually, you grow faster, notice I didn’t say learn faster – but you grow faster when you have resistance, trials, and obstacles. this is my one concern if we stick people in the perfect environments. will people stop growing?
I know the plants love it – but for whatever reason, humans are still looking externally for happiness versus inside themselves for happiness.
is my life a bowl of cherries right now? no. is it a challenge, rewarding and fulfilling each day? yes.
how do I walk out that path in life and really try to love everyone else…even my enemies? yeah, I can see why so many get tired and give up on life, yet, I learned that if you never quit or give up – you will always continue growing. after all, the only thing you really can control in life – is you.
that is my odd 10 minutes of whatever advice today. maybe one day I will take the time to actually write something, but for now, the rambling brain prose each morning, post brainstorm – allows whatever I was thinking and working on…to simmer.