one day during the Monica Lewinsky scandal when ex-president Clinton looked at the camera and infamously said, “I did not have sexual relations…(snip) a friend working with a major news service said, “he just gave everyone in America a license to lie.” today, after I shared a story of a friends experience in elementary school, I had to ask someone about the shift and change the behavior of the public and all he said was, “it used to be you would think things and not say them, with president trump he greenlighted everyone just saying whatever they feel. truth is the innocent bystander."
what is the story that had me shake my head with the kid? it is the tale of the reality of if we want to make the country and the planet a better place, we have to change some fundamental things about how we are raising and teaching kids, our greatest asset for the future. here is a condensed version of a moment in the life
anyone over 50 that did the traditional job or career security path, has to have realized the idea pretty much went out the door I am guessing 15 years ago? one friend got caught up in the downsizing, hipness modification, and/or you are too expensive, yet still wants to work till they his 62 a then collect their pension and social security. to bridge the time, they applied for a job at a local school and had to go through all sorts of background checking and such to be around and work with kids. that was the first red flag for me, “wow, you need background checks to teach kids, and then you go through metal detectors and lock down spaces because of the threat of some lunatic shooting the place up?” (is this an environment to teach young minds?)
the original job need didn’t work out, but since the person was a librarian, they had ample spots and the person was thrilled to go back and do what she was familiar with. on her first day, there was a line of 1st graders making a cue to get books or something and a little young man walked up and cut the line.
“Hey, you can’t cut the line. go back to the end of the line.”
“Yeah, well F*ck you!” said the 1st grader (does that make the kid 6 or 7 years of age)
“what did you say?”
“I said f*ck you! don’t you tell me to go to the back of the line... my daddy’s in prison and he knows bad people that will f*ck you up.”
they say the first 5 years of your life are very formulate the way you will live and see the world. here was my friend on their first day, having grown up in a normal corporate existence, full of all the nonsense you have in everyday corporate life, staring at a 6 or 7-year-old, in a school…amazed.
“you do not talk or use that language with me or any other teacher in this school. get to the back of the line. now!”
when I heard the story, I thought perhaps she was making it up, then I remember talking to magnet schools and inner city schools about inventing in the past. the magnet schools had 12-year-olds that were far brighter than I was, hungry to learn and asking very good questions. the inner city schools had 40-50 kids shoved into a room with one or two kids you wanted to pull out and put in the magnet school while a teacher could call the parents of all the other kids and they would be home during the day. there was one school in Nashville where the teacher was abhorred at how her kids behaved when I talked…she called up 40 parents, and 30 of them were home. it was a moment where I asked that school’s principal about dropout rates and found a tremendously high amount of kids drop out before they reach the 7th grade. (I was astounded)
so..when you have kids seemingly not getting guided by any parental figure, and you have the president of the united states seeming to come across as a childish, short term thinking bully of sorts (sorry Mr. president, if you don’t realize the power and influence you have just with your position and need to defend yourself via some ego/pride issue - I really wish general Kelly would take your phone for the interests of national security and helping make America great again and realize sometimes you lead by saying less and simply doing more and not expecting credit)
I digress, and the aforementioned comment only comes after I shared the story of this kid with another college professor who replied, “yeah, it is getting strange inside the USA. people are all acting crazy…I blame it all on trumpism.”
that is when I remembered my other friend talking about ex-president Clinton and I combined the two. you give the public a license to lie, and then tell everyone the emperor has clothes when he is naked. (like this goofy 10-minute blog rant each day)
but that is how I am learning, at a late age, how a leader should and should not act. I don’t know how someone really can lead anymore in politics since they are long bought and sold by the powers that get them elected, and with power comes a great deal of perks of all sorts with money, fame, groupies, and drugs. how does one keep their head screwed no with all the stuff? I don’t know.
but as I get older, I realize our leaders are imperfect humans as well – yet – what I don’t understand in today’s modern digital age is how everyone has become a critic, is judging every behavior that is imperfect – yet the critic is imperfect themselves.
not judging someone is a very hard thing to do. looking inside and trying to change yourself is actually harder. yet, it is as if everyone needs a timeout inside the USA, drop the social media and spend some time staring into a mirror and look at only themselves.
maybe then we won’t have 1st graders telling librarian to “f*ck off” for the simple social decency of not cutting a line?
my friend calls it trumpism. I call it clintrumpism. not only do you lie, but you attack anyone that tells you that you are not wearing any clothing. while the USA market for people over 50 is a bit funny, particularly when you never want to retire as you found the work that makes your heart sing – whether you make a dime or not…I have learned late in life the value of actions in our modern society, and how important it is to have decent honest leaders.
then again, what human would run for the presidency with all the junk one has to walk through or expose their family just to get the job? then once they get it, they appear to worry more about their legacy and getting re-elected than actually changing the country because in our current trajectory what is best for the long term of the country probably looks laughable in a short-term/take a pill to cure any ill society.
to ex-president Clinton and current president Trump, please don’t think I am trying to single the two of you out, but in my life, it is a few simple actions that you did that show me the value of key men beyond what they can do, but how they shape and influence the herd or people that don’t ask “why?” much. I had no idea how much of a responsibility power really have in a world where it seems absolute power corrupts.
we have to stop glamorizing unhealthy and insane behavior as normal. stop dilluting heroic and stop celebrating celebrity for no known action or reason.