I seem to bring out the worst in some folks by asking the question, “why?" I am not sure if this is some personality trait? A genetic default with inquisitiveness? Or perhaps people simply talk and never expect anyone to ask them questions that they have to build a construct for why and how they feel? Today’s communication mess had someone state, “starvation is painless?”
When I commented, “If it is a choice, the end of someone’s life with age or disease - I agree. No food probably isn’t all that bad, but I have seen too many animals and humans suffering because of hunger, lack of food or enough calories. It sure doesn’t look like a painless death, rather sad example of suffering.”
So that conversation came to a quick halt. And my confusion with my friend's views really didn’t get resolved. As I was listening to them talk, It was as if my brain was in disbelief. Had they ever starved themselves for a spiritual fast? Been poor and hungry? had doctors handoff orphans who are alive, yet, say, “it is too late, we can’t save this child.”
I wondered, had they ever seen animals in the wild stuck in snow banks, or in droughts and had no food or water? What about the people in man’s worst behavior with work camps and the Holocaust…did these people think starvation was painless?
As I type this, I wonder what was so wrong with asking these questions and giving examples of things I either self-tested or worked on. A spiritual fast can be a fantastic thing where you never feel hungry, and the only explanation you can give is that something else was "helping" you along with grace. The same process can also be painful and hard work where your mind seems to degrade into a state of stupidity, and you smell the ketosis of your muscles and fat being eaten away for energy to stay alive. What it has me wonder is how many elderly or terminally sick people are on their way out of this planet that is shut down and make a conscious choice to pass away?
I remember my one girlfriend, whose body went from voluptuous and graciously endowed with physical attributes to a frail stick of herself that was cut away to try to buy some time from aggressive cancer, she was most beautiful when she came to peace with her mortality on this planet. Her heart and spirit lit up the room around her body that was ravaged by surgeons and chemo. In her case, It was the physical pain that hurt all the time, so I can’t say if she didn’t feel pain from not eating at the end.
I guess all this work on relationship communication techniques is paying off. I have learned a different way of trying to talk, listen, and communicate with others the past 21 months. I have looked at my married friends, even my parents and I wonder if relationships are just more work and drudgery than open, secure and free passionate love? I ask this question as there seems to be a lot of misery when I look out at people in long-term relationships. It is easy to see passion and sparks with new couples.
Sorry for the digression, let’s get back to the original topic, of which, perhaps my friend doesn't realize or care that there are eight or nine -hundred million people on this planet really hungry tonight. Or that another two billion are drinking some sort of water that is probably not all that healthy. I will google the questions, “how many people will die on the planet today?”
I got a guess of about “one hundred fifty-one thousand.” That number is actually less than I would have guessed or estimated. (see, you learn something if you just ask and seek)
As for the number of people making a choice because of old age, or they know it is time (animals are interested in demonstrating that it is time for them to pass along) and in this case, yes, I imagine no food is probably an excellent way to pass away. You just fall into a coma, and then the end comes? (I have no idea, only a guess)
But for the rest of the people, who do not make a choice and food or water is withheld from them, I call this suffering. They don’t have an opportunity in the matter where food security is some tool used by the people in power to control them or the votes in some countries. I find this ironic, in that I am sitting here in the united states where we have a lot of hungry little kids. It is something that I have a hard time believing that reality versus the “image” of the country, but it is true. The rest are suffering from eating crappy food, and instead of starving to death, I think we are suffocating ourselves with bad food, too many calories, and obesity.
I don’t believe death via overeating is painless, but I could be wrong. I am merely too sad with how a simple conversation has some folks I know not able or willing to answer their own beliefs under the questions of “why?”
guess I will go study more about that communication, as it is ironic that I read Warren buffet made a comment that the best gift a person can give themselves is to learn to write and speak well.
I spent most of my time learning new things or ways to build something. In hindsight Mr. Buffett is correct – many are poor speakers and listeners. But just remember, it is never too late to try to learn and grow. I am an old dude, but see a path that is better than where I was. The reality is that I can’t change another person, nor, can I be everything to everyone. I will let some folks down in their own mind, no matter what I try to do. A start has been actually to work to do a spell check, and now I will go over the content to just write better.
There might be three people on the planet that I know who are great writers, who can say it in one take – no editing needed. I am not one of them, but I am working to get better each day.