if you are looking for nothing good…
You will find it. If you are looking for something good. You too will find it. The question is, how do you live your life in what you see and do?
Yesterday I was listening to a few men talk. What is interesting in this trip to the USA is that in Switzerland I found a pocket of people who “can do” and are smart enough and willing to do whatever is required to make something real.
For example, when I helped Frank with the control rooms – neither of us really knew what we were doing, but there was enough crossover talent from previous experience where we built it out – and thanks to john Brandts design…it was nice.
Where I am at in the USA is more of the opposite. Usually, I was always around the “can do” people or makers, yet, even the maker spaces today are a diluted version of what is possible. academia seems to be using them as a donor gaining “space” while actually allowing people to play, test, explore, and do iterations on a path to success is blanketed more by rules relegated by liability issues than innovation issues
When you get out into the mainstream, I am struck with how many people feel they can’t do anything. I am not sure if it is confidence? Fear of looking silly? Lack of experience? No one told them it was ok to try? (I can come up with a long list of excuse that detracts from someone taking a step.
With the older men I come across, or even the folks my own age, I am saddened with the way brains are wired not to trust, to think of what is the worst possible thing that can happen, and to continually look for bad things or reasons why “so and so” is not good. If you press the issue, usually they are making a judgment based on a few bad experiences they had in life, and they somehow change their paradigm to leading with a negative versus positive.
I really have to thank my one psychotic ex-girlfriend for teaching me two things. The first is if you go looking for anything that is not right, you will find something, if you don’t have essential trust and the idea of not taking care of your past – you will repeat the future.
the bigger one I really should thank her for is that she taught me how to forgive someone that went out to hurt you – and had me ponder retaliating.
that is when I met that monk that said, “forgive her and pray for her.”
what a great, but painful thing to learn how to do.
the sad part is I know a lot of people walking with pain and hurt (myself included) that just like the maker spaces – don’t want to put in the effort, or look inside and realize, “we all are imperfect, we all need to help each other, we all have crap….
So why is it we like to point fingers at each other and blame? Oh yeah, it is merely the path of least resistance and the easiest way to cover your heart in never seeing yourself. Just apply more makeup, get some new stuff, and keep telling yourself you are right?
I guess it is the moment when you get really honest with yourself that you realize, perhaps I am not quite as good as I thought?