I was privy to watch, observe, and listen to what could best be described as some younger adults that probably didn’t have to grow up and work in the world that many of us have. It is the world of privilege that somehow has no clue about the reality of the actual world that it resides within. I am not sure if this is generations of breeding within a class-based society? or is it simply some humans want to think/believe they are very different or somehow more special than other humans based on what they were born into? what I am going to write about is a young man, who I would have to wager has never really had or needed to want for much of anything. I have to guess this is true, based on his egregious social behavior in a small café in a country where a few thousand years of turmoil has created a sense of entitlement among a few. call it a class bases system.
when it comes to wealth, I only know that the majority of it is passed down from one generation to the next. in the USA it is about 2/3rds of the people some call it trustfundism, others call it class and station. I really don’t care too much for either as I think making your own way is far more rewarding than being handed it. while I would not complain if someone dumped a trust fund full of cash in it that gave me the freedom to do whatever I wished, I don’t think I would appreciate the value of what it takes to really start and make something without the benefit of a little help.
the young man at this table was well educated, wore the exact clothing that the right brand and catalog told him to, and he was at the table with his fiancé and the entire restaurant had to listen to his conference call on a speaker phone with his mother while we ate. It was only when he held up a bottle in his right hand in the air, and almost expected the staff to cater to his every whim, that I realized, “this kid has never had to actually work a day in his life…his world is given to him, and from the sounds of his mom, his decisions and movements in life have all been planned out for him.”
mind you, money does buy the opportunity for great education and other freedoms, yet, does it allow people to simply treat others as if they do not exist in the bubble of self-absorption?
what I watched while eating my lunch were a few things. I observed most of the café patrons seeming to wish I would go take the cell phone and put it in the water pitcher for them with the man’s boorish behavior with his fiancé. we all had to listen to his tale of the harrowing conquest of bad weather and his mom rambling on about stuff that would have been better kept as a private conversation - not a news broadcast in a cafe.
i though about getting up and putting the phone in a pitcher of water, yet, was told not to go put the man’s phone in the water by my dinner companions because it would cause potential embarrassment to them for telling another human, “dude, your personal behavior is not cool in a public space.”
it is the age old question of, just because it is legal, does it mean it is ok to behave in a self absorbed way?
I wanted to go sit at the couples table and fire out a few dozen questions and ask sincere questions about the lad's actions and behaviors. was he born this way? or was his social construct what created the ultimate poster child for class and station have gone wrong?
yes, I know, I ask “why?” too much – yet, I was fascinated with the unanswered, “why’s?” because his behavior is perfectly acceptable in the upper crust of this country’s social class system.
how was this apparent? simply because he help up his (or his moms, or family trusts) credit card to pay and the patient wait staff smiled and said, “sorry, you need cash here.”
I know the presidents of the united states rarely carry cash, much less are allowed to do much of anything “normal” but there was a young lad with a clueless look upon his face as if to say, “what do you mean? I have to pay? with cash?”
so he sent his girlfriend out to get cash for him.
as I mention, the young man is not stupid, he is well educated, and he was brought up in a world that is not the norm. the entire conversation with his mom explained that she was pretty much running his show. it saddened me, yet, I went to college with a lot of kids like this – they called their mom and dads and asked them what courses they should take.
I found it odd, and perhaps that is why I never really fit in well with the herd of folks simply following a trend and never asking, “why am I following this? why do I believe in this?”
they young man will no doubt have a bright future, have a lovely wife, home and family. I just wonder if he will ever really live while he is on this planet?
that's my two cents and the hope that this young man will realize there is more than his self-universe bubble and use his talents to help the planet, and not just himself. I guess the bigger question is will his mom and dad actually let him? or is it all about them retaining control of that which they might have very well been given and handed down? “don’t take risks, but don’t loose any of it!”
life is indeed odd, no? while I seriously try to just look inside myself and see the plethora of things I can improve upon, sometimes I look at something outside of myself and go, “how did this all happen? I would like to understand and learn about this man’s “why? why? when? where? what?”