the scourge of perfectionism? the benefit of perfectionism?
“Today's perfection becomes tomorrow's swampy cesspool of shit and the quicker we accept that the point of life is progress and not perfection, the sooner we can all order a pizza and go home.” – mark Manson
there is nothing wrong with wanting something perfect. the issue I have had and found over the years is that I have yet to meet a perfect person, rather, I have met a lot of people pretending to, acting, or believing they are perfect. it can make for some exhausting times. in fact, I look at the entire striving to appear perfect, like a giant use of energy with covering up, and/or applying lots of make-up to not look at the reality that as humans, no one is really perfect, yet, the journey of life – is.
there is a great difference between doing something of high quality and extremely well versus obsessing over doing something over and over to appear all put together or perfect for another. the first group takes a lot of time, skill and mastery to really excel at some activity or craft. the second is more of a psychological issue where an image and illusion is more important than the actual depth and quality of something.
I heard some music in the store the other day and I started dancing. mind you, I am in a country where I swear they need a sanction to have fun and/or smile. so I got a lot of odd looks from the people, “doesn’t that man know he is an adult? he can’t dance in a store!” mind you, I have never seen so many dogs and pets being walked around a store with folks that probably never have, nor never will have any wants or needs in the worldly sense – yet, I remembered the quote, “dance like no one is watching.”
so I did. it was fun, and for a guy that can’t dance, I had a moment where I was breathing fresh air amid a world that wants to look like everything is right – when if you scrape away the surface – everyone is just as goofy as everyone else on the planet.
such as the exhausting reality of perfectionism. it is something that can be very good from the skills of a talent or craft. it also will destroy more people and cause more stress with some idea that as humans we are perfect and have it all together on this small blue planet.
I don’t think I expressed the deeper thoughts of what I was trying – but after I got off the gerbil wheel of what society said is living – I realized that while some say perfection is in the eye of the bolder, I realized that out of several thousand shows and I don’t know how many photos or prototypes I have done in my life. I have yet to have one that I would say is ever perfect.
it doesn’t mean I keep trying and working to become better and progress – but it does mean I have given up the idea that one can somehow magically appear perfect 24/7 and 365 days a year. I mean I can appear perfect with a team of people making me look perfect, but I doubt I would feel all that perfect with the realities of life each day.
so I guess I will order pizza and simply work on bringing some ideas to life. in the process – life will somehow work out as perfect.
I watch people trying to be perfect these days I and I think, “my god, that has to be exhausting inside one's heart and soul.”
I never say elvis or liberace perform, but I wager in their lives they had some shows that went far beyond their talents and they would say, “yes, that was close to perfection…but I will try again tomorrow night to achieve it.”