damned if you do, damned if you don’t
I think that expression somehow goes along with “better to ask for forgiveness than permission?”
what I marvel at and am fascinated with in my personal life and the way of each country is how people perceive, act, and treat each other. I think to yesterday’s message from father Jason about two of the world’s biggest problems are pride and unforgiveness, how all of us are in some way a bit wounded or hurt by the events of life and others and how even in church, you will have people remembering what someone said 20-30 years ago that bothers or hurts another to this day
mark twain had a great quote about things we hold that is akin to someone throwing acid around the room, it will hurt those where it lands, but it does far more damage to the vessel that holds it.”
part of me wonders if the media shoving all this negative news down our throats and the movies and tv all presenting amazing romanticized stores that are told in 22 minutes or two hours (and we get to slurp sodas and eat popcorn too!) are skewing or programming us into a faux reality that takes any attention or time away from that which is inside us.
I look at the supreme court issues and think back in amazement…we are judging a man today based on what he did as a teenager? I don’t know what happened, I have no idea what happened, who was involved, etc.….but my god I have done many stupid things as a teenager and even as an adult. thankfully, if you choose, you can learn from them, and once you let go of the image and bus of appearing together and perfect to please others – life takes on a whole different trajectory or meaning.
for example…helping people. I don’t know why I try to help people. I think it is something everyone does. it isn’t like it is a business or work, but I have accumulated boatloads of skills and such from working in the lab making prototypes and models because I had neither the money or resources to build something the fancy and expensive way – I simply had to go from a dream, to a thought, to usually a period of trial and errors because people simply tend to want to hoard the knowledge and the reality is that once someone shows you “how” to do it – it is a bit like a magician teaching you a trick, “that's all it is?”
forgive the digression – sometimes in life, you find yourself, from the bottom of your heart trying to help another and you run into the fears and trepidations inside another, that will suck the time, resources and stress you out. it is either ignorance, stupidity, or an unhealthy habit someone has that has brought forth how they look at an issue.
did you ever notice how easy it is for someone to try to suck you into their world that is unhealthy and/or a bad design/idea?
“but I want that one!”
“you can have that one, and I would like you to go back and look at these ideas that were all designed by lots of experts, people using it, common sense, and facts…and see if you might notice where your original idea can be improved upon.”
usually, it is lack of understanding or knowledge that holds people back. I do understand this, and yet, I know that you keep trying, even if you are getting beaten down…you just don’t do the same thing and expect a different result.
what I am seeing is a lot of us all taking, few listening, and I am guilty of not being a better listener – yet – it takes time to really help another. I guess that is why a lot of the help I do for others is to try to make their dreams reality. there is nothing better than seeing the smile of a person that is now beyond a dream. it might only be a moment, but you see that joy inside that comes forth.
I do think we could all live and walk in that joy most of the time on this planet. it doesn’t mean that life will be any simpler or less difficult, yet, I have learned that letting go of pride and learning to forgive are probably the two biggest weapons in learning to love.
what I also see in the world is we are all a bit broken, hurt, raw…yet…few want to let go of that which is slowly killing them and they would rather hold on tight to what is known…be it unhappiness and misery and do nothing but complain and point fingers…then let go…take a step…and learn to live in joy.
and yes, if you try to help people…I just have come to a place where someone is going to be pissed off. usually, for reason you will never understand.