what other people think of us and why it seems to matter to us has somehow come out of the blue as a question this week. i am always amazed with the vast diversity in what people want and desire as something they like, and how often they will not walk out of this comfort zone with ease.
take for example my lab and the need to have a super organized, neat, meticulous space and desk. it isn't me. i want a space where i know where everything is, but usually it is representative of the several ideas and projects going on in my head. to some, it looks messy or cluttered, to a creative, they would say "wow cool!"
it is all a matter of perspective and personal taste?
we spend a great deal of time, perhaps even more so today in the sound byte world trying to present and live an image, that just doesn't allow for being very human. what is desired is some idea that we are perfect, yet, in reality we all are a bit imperfect in some ways. that imperfection is like flaws in blues music, they can sound great if you just use them within who you are to your "self"
instead, in a world too busy trying to present and image, it doesn't leave much time to present ones true self, so man invented make-up to bridge the gap between true self and what others or society say we should look and be.
i marvel at the amount of men dying their hair, taking hormones and probably doing as much cosmetic surgery as women, who for the life of me, i don't understand why injecting a strain of botulism would not have anyone ask, "uhm..this probably will not bode will in the long term"
today you can get an implant any body part, and the image in the western developed world that the media presents is that you need all kinds of "stuff" to be happy. one person i wished i could have sat and had a cup of coffee with was george carlin. i didn't agree much with his views on some subjects, but i will never take away his comedic genius in his ability to look at any dark subject in life and make us laugh about it long enough to actually look behind the giggles.
"we drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much. We have multiplied our possessions but reduced our values. we talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. we've learned how to make a living but not a life. we've added years to life, not life to years." - george carlin
perhaps it is aging, getting older, having wisdom seep through the cracks where the illusion of even needing "makeup" can squeeze through and wash it all off for an instant and one can stand before a mirror and truly see oneself.
i guess one gets two choices at that point. be terrified with what sees and hurry to put it all back on, much like a child carries a security blanket as an appendage of themselves, or, one realizes "i don't need any of this," it will simply be my choice to want these things, not need them.
perhaps if as a society we spent less time adding makeup to ourselves and spent more time making up with our fellow man....we might just evolve a step or two.